Why is it that people have so much trouble just saying "I'm sorry". Two simple words....that mean so very much.
I've mentioned before that I was raised in an alcoholic home;
and I myself, am a recovering alcoholic.
In my childhood home there was not much apologizing going on. It was mostly blame and anger. Make no mistake....that environment leaves its mark.
One learn's to apologize for everything, or one learn's to apologize for nothing. I usually fell into the first category. I took the blame for most things....whether guilty or not.
I was always trying to figure out how I could make something my fault. Needless to say...that stance does not bode well for one's self esteem.
As an adult...I have often fallen back into that old pattern.....always looking at how I have done something wrong...in fact...I would often say "oh, I'm sorry" for nothing at all. My beautiful husband would often point this out to me saying...I was always trying to look for a way to make a certain outcome my fault.
Now......there is also a flip side to this coin....never being willing to apologize. I mean just saying the words "I'm sorry." Just that simple.... is not a hard thing to do.
Oh I know, the old ego is involved here....but the old ego...will often give you really bad advice. The old ego keeps you from showing humility when you should and can really make a mess of things.
Sometimes, there is a risk in saying you are sorry...you can be rejected. That hurts...but knowing in your heart you have behaved with humility and honesty and are genuinely sorry for your inappropriate behavior, goes a long way toward your forgiving yourself.
Life is a process, and I believe most of us do the best we can with what we are given.
These are my opinions and I know I'm on the soap box today....but I don't know how one can navigate this life without humility and forgiveness.
Hugs sweet friends,