Wednesday, March 23, 2011


Discovered a new term this last week in an interesting article I was reading.  The term was Soul Shredders...I had never heard this term used before so it certainly caught my eye.

In case you have no idea what a soul shredder is stick with me and I'll explain.

It is those people, places or things that completely burst your bubble...time and time again.

The little things you save of days gone by that rob you of your creativity and  For instance...we all have had relationships that have disappointed us..and many of us have saved little tokens reminding us of those days gone by...yet each time we look at these little items...we are filled yet again with some sort of sadness that this or that didn't work out.  

Do you ever find yourself looking back at old journals and realizing that you are continually repeating the SAME year over and over....same stuff....different day.
Have you ever saved old movie tickets from a special time in your life..only to realize now that it actually was not so very spectacular.  The friend or person you enjoyed this with was not a TRUE friend in fact....they have faded into the woodwork of time.

Well I say it is time to rid ourselves of anything in our lives that we could file in the drawer called SOUL SHREDDERS.

Spring is a time of awakening and if you haven't already cleaned out that it today....don't wait one more minute.  

It is time for spring cleaning....we deserve only the best in our lives.  Throw out anything or....anyone....for that matter who might be a soul shredder in your life. It is so very freeing to do so I can hardly believe that many of us live lives with that drawer filled to the brim ... even overflowing.

We all deserve to be creative and happy.

o.k. enough ranting for today....



I'm down 14 beautiful soul mate is down 24 pounds.....yipeeeeee!!

Hugs dear friends,


Photo:  Suzanne Berry....artist
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  1. I love this post today. I did just this 11 years ago and have never ever been happier!!!!!!! With all the wonderful positive things in my life there just isn't, nor will there ever be again be any room for negativity to sneak in without me shredding it. Congratulations on your weight loss! That is awesome!!!!!!!!!YEA YOU!!!
    ~Debra xxx
    Capers of the vintage vixens

  2. Hi Jo... yay for you losing that weight! I know exactly what you mean by "soul shredders"... and yes, I recently got rid of one... actually, a person... I had known her for almost 40 years and each time we got together she dragged me down with nothing but negativity... nothing, I mean nothing, ever made her happy and she was the complete opposite of me... I finally took a long hard look at our "friendship" and realized the only thing we had in common was that we had known each other all those years... it is such a relief to not have her whiny phonecalls and terrible outlook on life affecting me... don't get me wrong, I am the first one to stand beside anyone who is going through a problem... but she created her own problems and wanted to drag everyone down with her... once again, this reminds me of one of my favorite books by Naomi Judd... she calls it being "weighed down by a load of bricks" and tells you to throw away those bricks... I have done the same thing with some of the blogs I was following that were nothing but gloom and doom... I am happy and always try to think positive!... thanks for an inspiring post!... Happy Spring!... xoxo Julie Marie

  3. What a fantastic post Jo!!
    I know if you keep looking over your shoulder your circumstances will never change...repeated stuff over and over. I have learned to stop looking back because the power is in our now. I keep telling my hubby this.
    I don't want anymore repeated of the reasons I agreed to move away and completely make a fresh start. Even though it has not been an easy ride alot of good has happened.
    I agree we have to rid ourselves of people who rob us of our happiness...something else I've had to do.
    I am finally focusing on what's important in my son and husband and I can't be responsible for making anyone else happy outside of this. Oh and most importantly making "me" happy!

    Have a wonderful day!!

    Pamela xo

  4. Thanks for teaching me a new word! The basic concept behind it I'm familiar with, LOL. Yes, toss that soul shreddin' crapola!

  5. Hi Jo, I loved the message in today's post! I'd like to also get those soul shredders out of my head - you know, those thoughts that come to mind when reminded of sad times. It's really funny what brings those feelings on. Once I did get rid of every actual thing that this one person had given me. Although they were lovely little things I didn't want any reminder of this person and you know, just tossing them into the trash was one of the best things I ever did for myself. At the time I thought others might have viewed it as silly or wasteful, but in my heart I knew that it was a good and necessary thing for me to do. Ciao, bella!

  6. Fantastic entry! And fantastic news!

    Oh my, what an entry! I at first, thought of this, as referring to people. The kind that always have a sad story to tell. I try to avoid know ones of that variety.

    But you bring in the valid point of how we can keep our own drawer-full of 'Soul Shredders' in our own lives. Memories of this and that. Etc. How sad! How very sad!

    For these to do their put-down-work, we don't have to run into the gloomy neighbor in the grocery store. Nope! For these to do their 'downer work,' all we have to do is REMEMBER.

    REMEMBER... And not kick the dang thought right out of our heads, that is.

    We can fight back. We can't always avoid bumping into a 'sad-sack' person, along the way. But we can deal with our own drawer of 'downer thoughts and memories'!

    Thank you!

    ♥ Gentle hugs ♥

    ♥ Gentle hugs ♥

  7. I've had plenty of those in my life, but never heard that word used before. So appropriate. I loved this post today. Congrats on the weight loss. 14 pounds is amazing. I am going to start Weight Watchers next week. I really have to do this.

  8. Congratulations Jo! Are you and your beautiful soulmate buying new belts to keep your pants up? hee hee!

    Thank you for the new term. I will use it, do it, and spread it!

  9. Josette, I love this post and like you, will toss my soul shredders in spring cleaning. I had not heard of that term before. And congrats on the weight loss.

  10. Congrats on the weight loss! Awesome. sandie

  11. Wow, when I read the term "Soul Shredders", I got a chill running through me...

    Reminds me of a poem I wrote when we had an "Energy Sucker in our lives:

    The Energy Sucker

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  12. Wonderful advice! I have never heard this term but it is so fitting. Congratulations on your weight loss! You are an amazing woman.

  13. Seems you and I seem to post something each other needs at the right time...this time it was your turn. No truer words have I heard for a long time.

    Now I need to start losing the weight too:)


  14. Love this post, Jo! I may have to borrow this will apply to a few people I know!

  15. Jo, you are just simply awesome. I have had a few of those soul shredders, too--(picts of a long ago heartache). I finally threw the pictures out about a year ago, as I realized they no longer were necessary, and I was not the person I was way back when. This is what I love about spring! Cleaning out the junk to make way for more light.

  16. Jo...Congratualations!! 14 pounds, that is wonderful. You are most deserving of what I am passing on to you today...a little Blog Love :)

    As to soul shredders, do I ever know what you are talking about. You are so right...we need to be done and let go. To much life to live as far as I am concerned.

    Best wishes for a wonderful day and thank you for this wonderful post!

    Jeanne xx

  17. Hello, I´m new to your blog, but it looks very interesting.
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  18. Wonderful post Jo...and yes the beauty of spring is here to awaken us...Happy Spring and Yay Congrats..fantastic news!
    Shine on!

  19. Hi Jo,

    What a lovely post and like you, I had never heard that term" Soul Shredders!" But I know there are lots of "Soul Shredders" out there in the world who are sad souls that go through life trying to make other people sad too. I pray for all the "Soul Shredders" out there that they find happiness and peace.

  20. Dear Jo this is such a good Post and I am in total agreement. I limit my exposure to negative vibes and people, it saps energy, time and resources, which at this Season of Life is limited and too precious to squander! *winks* So glad you found my Blog and thankyou for the sweet words. Kiki is an absolute Joy and I was so fortunate to have met her in the Land of Blog, I do feel we are kindred Spirits.

    Where can you find my work displayed... on my Blog. I don't offer it for Sale there as my Blog is a Bliss Blog and not a Biz Blog and my Art I have done as a glorious Hobby... thus the long Post about making decisions about whether to continue in that manner or go to the next level with it! I've decided I shall continue to create for Bliss and those who have asked for a commissioned piece, as Kiki reminded me, will Joyfully wait because they know my pace is slow but steady. *winks* So I've never shown any of my work nor made it and then offered it for Sale, typically it's been Sold before it's been created and I'm thankful it has been received so well and folks are so very patient with me as an Artist. The Melrose Crawl is on 7th AVENUE from Indian School Northwards and it has been fun since I know so many Friends who own Shops and are local Artists that offer beautiful pieces to behold, purchase or photograph for my Blog Fodder and allowing others to discover their great Shops and Art! Perhaps we will meet someday in person as we seek out fabulous Bohemian Treasures!

    Happy Spring... Dawn... The Bohemian

  21. PS Jo I almost forgot the most important part... CONGRATULATIONS to you and your Soul Mate for the amazing weight loss!!! I am once again struggling to shed some excess fluff *winks*, I was down 41 lbs. and then gained it all back *le sigh* but at least now I know it is possible to shed the dreaded Menopause weight that has afflicted me! As a person who never had to worry about weight until this Season of Life I'm not accustomed to being a BMW and it feels rather strange to be so big... your testimony is yet another encouragement to keep moving forward in the quest for a leaner, healthier me!

    Dawn... The Bohemian

  22. Jo, so nice to meet you today, and I have enjoyed reading your last few posts. Most interesting is that your bio and mind could be sisters. So, I'm gonna keep checking in with you to see what's happening in your part of AZ. Congrats on the weight loss - it ain't easy at "our age". Good luck!

  23. I want to know how you lost the weight...if you can tell me you were not always hungry and did not have to run two miles a day to achieve it !!
    HOWEVER, CONGRATULATIONS no matter how you did it.

    I had a Soul Shredder called my MOTHER..and so that was a bit harder of get away from ...but I FINALLY did it when I was 50 years old...imagine waiting that long.....?? I simply "DIVORCED" HER...wrote her a "Letter of Divorce" and told her exactly why I was doing it.... made me feel so much better.

    But you are 100% right...we do not need to spend even one more minute, must less a day, week or years hashing over the past.
    And not wanting to sound overly religious about it..that is SATAN'S No. 1 job to take us "down"...and it it what he does best...and that is how he does it, with old,painful, useless memories, over and over and over again.

    Working on being as happy as I possibly can be.

  24. Hi Jo, thank you for finding and following my blog! Congratulations to you and your soul mate on your successful husband and I
    are really working at this as well. Thanks for the inspiration! I love the inspiration in this post and the term Soul this time in my life I seem more aware of how precious our time is and how it should be spent...being positive, laughing, and using kind words!! I agree, Spring has arrived to awaken our spirits!
    Thank you for sharing this lovely post...I will be passing your blog on to a special friend!

  25. P.S. I'm in love with the poster on your sidebar
    The words are so you mind if I ask where you found it?

  26. I have been dealing with one of these for the past 6 months....
    Your post...Heaven Sent~!

  27. thanks for the blessed words you shared in "soul shredders"...i'm that "special friend" of blossoms vintage chic she shared this with...
    i've had some soul shredders in my life and your words blessed my heart and encouraged me to move on and ONLY appreciate those in my life that i know love me...
    congrats on the weight loss...i've been trying hard, but it's soooooooooo slow...
    thanks again for your kind words and i hope you have an amazing day...

  28. Wonderfully written Jo and I am so glad I came by tonight and was catching up with you.
    Yes we can all relate to this even though I never heard it called that before but it fits for sure.
    I think yu have inspired me to do a some spring cleaning and sould shredding
    Love ya

  29. New blogging buddy visiting and I love this post.
    Amber from LIving at the Whitehead's Zoo


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