Are you the kind of person who likes to always "be in the know"......no surprises...think everything is under control. The go to person....with all the answers. Well dear friends..I believe that state of being is IMPOSSIBLE.
Today, I received an update e-mail from my dear friend who's husband has just been diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. She commented that they are having such a hard time with this because they like to "be in the know" and are having a huge problem with all the uncertainty. She asked for prayers...which we are doing...but on reflecting about her comment above; I've come to this conclusion.
ARE WE EVER IN THE KNOW??? I mean completely...totally...I think not.
TO LIVE IS TO BE UNCERTAIN. The only one to "be in the know" is the being upstairs....driving the bus! LOL
Oh...from time to time...he or she will give us a little respite and let us think we are controlling this whole sha-bang, but in reality; we're not. The only thing we do have control over is ourselves and our behavior.
In fact...I think we all should have this
permanently imprinted in our mindset as the rule for LIFE 101
Show up
Pay attention
Tell the truth
Don't get too attached to the outcome
Don't know about you....but the last one is a BIGGIE for me personally. (O:
Have a beautiful rest of the week sweet friends.
Jo
Photo: The Paris Apartment~pinterest
So true. After 9/11 I was pretty much traumatized and fearful of riding the subway. It was my hubby who told me that I cannot stop living, that when it was my time, it wouldn't matter where I was or what I was doing. Pretty morbid thoughts, yes, but true.
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Yes, uncertainty terrifies humans. But once we understand that we live continuously in a state of uncertainty, we grow a little bit. But we still want to be MOSTLY certain if we can, LOL!
ReplyDeleteBest wishes to your friends as they struggle with the deep realities of life and death.
Oh Jo, you are so correct! In reality, I'd rather not know everything. My poor mind can only hold so much before I have to flush the psychological toilet to add room for more. Imagine what a jam up it would be! ;-) Have a wonderful week as well, my sweet friend.
ReplyDeleteI really don't want to know everything but there are some things I would like to know that I don't. I feel for your friend. Our oldest son has a mass on the back of his brain that we do not know yet exactly what it is. He has another MRI the 2nd of May. Your friend and family will be in our prayers. Hope you are doing well sweet Jo. Hugs
ReplyDeleteAmen! Have a great weekend, Jo!
ReplyDeleteOh I don't think i will ever be in the know!! But having said that I really want to be in the know right now with my life!
ReplyDeleteI hope your friend pulls through Jo...
Blessings,
Pamela xo
Couldn't have said it better myself Jo. Hope your friends will get thru this with God guiding them in thru His love. Prayers lifting ...
ReplyDeleteHave a beautiful weekend.
TTFN ~
Marydon
This is food for thought, but I agree with you. Sometimes we have to just give it over to the guy in charge.
ReplyDeleteXO,
Jane
YOU are in the know for this subject:)
ReplyDeleteOne more reason I don't make plans, I'm never in charge, even if I think I am....
-sigh- Yes, needing to always have everything planned out and Know... It's futile.
ReplyDeleteSo is having to know every bit of knowledge. Every bit of "the news." Every bit of all the mountains of information available today. -sigh- Silly to run ourselve's ragged, trying to know-it-all and read-listen-to-it-all.
Sad for your friends...
Gentle hugs...
Great message! Have a lovely weekend. xo
ReplyDeleteI often think about the uncertainty of everything but I don't ever question it. I do realize that is what life is all about. There are times I just ponder what the future holds. I'm an in the moment kinda girl who likes a quiet existence. Too much talking and carrying on doesn't sit well with me. Maybe that's why I like blogging so much. The ability to share with others in a quiet manner. I find the written word to be so much more meaningful sometimes than that which is spoken because you can take your time to write things properly. Sending prayers out to your friend and her husband. I liked the post about your ex-husband and the music he pursued. It's a wonderful thing that you two were able to sort things out before he died. Hope you have a great weekend. Tammy
ReplyDeleteSo true, my friend... I spent the early part of my adult life thinking that I "had" to be that person. Like it was my job or something. All it does is exhaust the spirit and stress the body and it's so not worth it.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with your friends and bountiful blessings to you, sweet lady.
XOXO,
~Mrs B
Your story really resonated with me Jo, my Mum was diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago and is due for annual tests next week. Our little family is trying not to stress and enjoy each day until they're done and then we hope to just have the "grace" to accept whatever the outcome of those tests may be. Bron.
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