"Pain is inevitable....suffering is optional." the Buddha...
For those of us who have lost an adult child it is often a case of thinking "how can the sun go on shining?" ...but it does each and every day.
As each morning arrives with a jolt....no it is more like pain....you come to realize that life goes on even though you feel like yours has just fallen apart. Flowers keep on blooming.....rain keeps on falling...and people are just
"keepin' on" about the business of life.
My beautiful amaryllis has not missed a beat during this sad time in my life. It just keeps on blooming and blooming....with a message to me that "life must go on....not as before....but it must continue".
These beautiful sunflowers were sent to us from my brother, Kerry. These are for you Scott.....I know the sun is shining where you are.
ENJOY THEM!!!!!
xo
Jo
Beautiful, yet heart-wrenching. (((Hugs))) to you at this very sad time. xo
ReplyDeleteJo such real words. Life brings us joy but lots of pain too. And it is hard to carry on when you have had to say goodbye to such a loved one.Scott will be with you in your heart forever. And all we can do when we are faced with this is to take one day at a time, put one foot in front of the other. Only time will make your pain more bareable.
ReplyDeleteAnd there will be times when you can remember the funny good times you spent togeather and have a private little chuckle.. I have not been in your situation but had
to say goodbye to my youngest brother., it was the most terrible day of my life and years later still I have a private cry. It never goes away but gets a little easyer with time.
Sending you all loads of hugs.
Rosezeeta.
Beautiful post, my friend. Although no words can really help to ease the loss you bear, just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteThose we love don't go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
Sending hugs and healing thoughts to you.
They're always our babies no matter how old. Wishing you love and strength to bear something so unbearable...Mary
ReplyDeleteDear Jo, I am so sorry for your loss. I too know the pain of losing a child. It has been 21 years, but somedays, seem as if it were still just yesterday, others, a lifetime. It is not the correct order..for a parent to bury a child, but it is the burden we must endure till we see our beautiful children again. If it is any consolation, I smile every day with memories of my son, and know he is with me every step I take. Here's wishing that you will soon be smiling as well, he is in Gods hands, safe, and warm, and loved beyond what we understand. xoxox Christel
ReplyDeleteMy sister lost her son when he was a senior in high school. Changes in all lives and after almost 30 years, still hurts. But like Rosezeeta said - it does get a little easier with time. And yes, as hard as it is, life goes on for those of us left behind. Wishing you peace in your heart and sending you hugs and prayers.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine your pain. I am so sorry for your terrible loss.
ReplyDeleteMay such beautiful flowers give you a small measure of heart's ease during this dreadful time. Hugs to you
ReplyDeleteOh, Jo, I've seldom read words so deep and pure from the heart, and my heart aches for you. Carrying on is so hard. Keep Calm and Carry On, they say. Good words to remember, harder to do. Big hugs to you.
ReplyDeleteHi Jo -- I answered your "Ask Me Anything" question at my blog today!
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